My reflection before the end of 2018

Reflecting before the end of 2018...

Typing when Daddy and Aedan are both sound asleep. 

We have been back Singapore for a year.

Thinking back, 2018 has passed fast. 

A lot of energy is spent in setting a routine for Aedan since his start of half day school.

It was a struggle mentally and physically.

On Aedan’s 1st day of school, I was so emotional that I cried alone after leaving him crying and shouting for me. For many months, I struggled to carry a crying boy to school and had to explain to him over and over again in many different ways so that he can understand why he needs to go to school and there’s no room for negotiation. It was mentally and physically tiring. Definitely a test of my patience and physical strength with his ever increasing weight. 

This phase has passed and I am so glad that he does not resist going to school now and I enjoy listening to his stories in school. 

For long, we have been struggling with his very late sleeping cycle. Sleeping late and waking up late. We took really long, almost a year to finally adjust it to what we deem ideal. He now sleeps around 8pm and wakes up between 5-6am. It’s difficult because that means we have to wake up super early too (mainly Daddy 🤣 cos most of the time Aedan wakes Daddy first and I wake up around 7) and no late night out.

But it’s all worth it as Aedan is more energetic in the day and I have “me-time” on my phone when he sleeps ✌🏻

I also converted an unused room into his playroom which I am really happy with how it turned out. A very functional playroom which I didn’t spend a bomb to transform.

Aedan told me many times how much he likes his playroom and we spent a lot of time playing and learning in the room. 

2018 has been a year in which Aedan has grown more independent, with him adapting to school life, trying to do more things on his own, many ideas of how he wants to do things, he experienced his first school excursion and his first performance on stage which I am very proud of.

Hopefully, with better routine set in 2018, I’ll be able to focus more energy in making the home, my business, read more books and meet up with friends... maybe another baby if god bless me one. 

Truly happy with how things turn out. 

It was not easy but it’s all worth it. 

- Mommy Eve 

Our 5th Wedding Anniversary

It’s 26th October again.

It has been really long since I last posted something on Twentysixoctober. 

Today, it’s our 5th wedding anniversary and 11th dating anniversary. 

时间飞逝，又一年过去了。

在这一年里好多事情发生但却没什么时间把一切都记载。

Many things had happened but there’s so little time to document everything. 

Aedan has started going to half day childcare.....so I have some “free time” in the morning. However, there are always things to do and blogging has been set aside.

Most of the day, after sending Aedan to school, I start my “me-time” with a cup of ice coffee and breakfast.... reply customers’ queries on Carousell @tsobaby 

and at 9am, I’ll check on stock prices. 

This has become my routine. Managing @tsobabysg and reading investment blogs have become my hobby. 

Once in a while, I indulge in drama like 延禧攻略... so there’re really lots to squeeze into that precious few hours. There are people who asked me why not put Aedan on full day childcare. There are many reason. After analysing the pros and cons, our family decided to put him on half day. 

Reading investment blogs is now something that I really love to do. I started investing in retail bonds and equities many years ago while I was still working in bank. However, at that time, I have little idea of what I was doing. 

Made a few wrong decisions and learnt from

mistakes...reading more to be better at it.. though I’m still not good, I think I’m getting better. Since I quit my job, I am glad that my investment provides some passive income .. so I don’t feel too guilty when I buy some new clothes for myself. 

Okay, back to today, our dating and wedding anniversary. We enjoyed our very rare peaceful couple time when Aedan was in school. We had lunch at Hai Di Lao and I am utterly impressed by their level of service and thoughtfulness in making our special day a very special one. 

Especially love the decoration put up by them. 

“我负责赚钱养家”

“我负责貌美如花”

Hope my hubby will remember this quote forever. 

爱不就是如此吗？哈哈哈哈😂

Happy Anniversary to my hubby!

Thanks for being so supportive in what ever decisions I made and in entrusting your money to me, I promise to manage it well and at the same time try my best to be a good mom and wife. 

Will always psycho you to love me more every day till forever. 😂❤️

With Love,

Evelyn 

30 Year Old me writing to remind myself

Yesterday, I celebrated my 30th Birthday. 

Went to a brunch date with hub while Aedan was in school. Fetched him at noon and we went on a shopping spree. Blew the candles with family at night. 

It was a simple and good one. 

After Aedan fell asleep, I read all the birthday messages and wishes from friends and they filled my heart. 

I love the age 30. 

It has been a good thirty years of memories. 

Many changes had happened in the past few years...pregnancy, child birth, quit my job, moved to a foreign land and now back. 

While I was living in Israel, my mind was free so I thought a lot, reflected on my past while searching the future. 

When I was a child, I used to fear many things and the world does not seem like a good place to be in. 

As I grow up, I learnt to overcome my fear and see fear as weakness for progress and greater thing. 

I got to realise that life is tough at a young age, I worked hard to make improvement to my life. Education is the key to change one’s life and so I studied hard. 

I was lucky, as my hard work paid off. Not all people work hard and get what they want but I always get what I want when I work really hard for it. 

I continue to work hard in my twenties and I always thought I will work like this forever. 

But life gave me an opportunity to change my direction in life. To see life more than just work and achievements. To discover that there are so much more in life than chasing accolades.

I think I am really a blessed one. 

When life was difficult, there was hope. 

When life was stressed, there was love.

When I got lost in chasing the illusion, life brought me to see the real. 

Life is unpredictable but there’s always something to learn along the way. 

From chasing grades to chasing KPI, it was always about the results. I used to think that result is the important but now I think process is much more important than result. 

I used to care more about self achievement. Now I hope to make a difference in other’s life. 

I used to place work above family. 

Now my family is the most important. 

At some point in life, I used most of my time to buy money. And at some point, I realised that money can’t buy back time. 

Time is our limited resources. 

While money can buy us many things, there are also many things in life which money can’t buy. 

With the limited time we have, love our family, spend time, be kind, serve one another. 

Make no room for regrets.

Tomorrow is not promised and today is short.

Back to this fast-paced society, it’s easy to forget what’s truly important. 

This 30 year-old me writing to remind myself. 

With love, 

Evelyn